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Now she wants to quit Taekwondo
3/14/2011 8:50:29 PM
She was doing so good at it. Top of her class, just got her orange belt, and now she wants to quit because she says there are no girls her age there and she doesn't like sparring. She's 9, the closest girls to her age are 7 and I think 14, so she's kind of stuck in the middle.
But it's not all about socializing. She can socialize at school, right?
After a successful year she wants to quit. I keep telling her a girl needs to know some self-defense, but it just doesn't sink in. I think she's getting lazy too.
Damn, I am so bummed.
Well, that hour where she had TKD will not be filled with television, that's for sure. She'll be reading or doing something else constructive. No free ride for her.
But it's not all about socializing. She can socialize at school, right?
After a successful year she wants to quit. I keep telling her a girl needs to know some self-defense, but it just doesn't sink in. I think she's getting lazy too.
Damn, I am so bummed.
Well, that hour where she had TKD will not be filled with television, that's for sure. She'll be reading or doing something else constructive. No free ride for her.
3/14/2011 8:58:47 PM
TKD isn't exactly self defense material anyway.
Get her in another class, something a bit more useful outside of a tournament environment.
Get her in another class, something a bit more useful outside of a tournament environment.
3/14/2011 11:19:40 PM
she may also want to have that reassurance that she's a "normal" girl, and seeing that there are no girls her age in the class, she may be questioning that... maybe find a different sport or a different school where there are more girls and see what she thinks...
once she's older, she won't care if there are any other girls in the class, but 9 is a tender age...
once she's older, she won't care if there are any other girls in the class, but 9 is a tender age...
3/15/2011 12:42:43 AM
Try Aikido. There will be more females in that sport.
3/15/2011 11:21:34 AM
My daughter started dance/gymnastics (Brown's Academy in Orlando) @ age 3 when we lived in Florida. When she finished 2nd grade we move to TN to be closer to her grandparents. There were no comparable gymnastics schools so she began taking tae kwondo after seeing a demonstration at school. She tool to it like a fish to water. By the time she was a Senior in HS she had 2 black belts, was an instructor, etc. When a Senior, her sensei took her to another dojo to show her off. He sparred with her, afterwards asking for volunteers to spar with her. No one would, as she almost took her sesei's head off. BTW...she's 27 now, still practices (doesn't compete anymore), is ONLY 4'11" and 105 pounds.
IDEA: My daughter LOVED watching female martial artists Michelle 'The Mouse' Krasnoo (sp??) as well as Cynthia Rothrock. See if you can find some of their DVDs.
IDEA: My daughter LOVED watching female martial artists Michelle 'The Mouse' Krasnoo (sp??) as well as Cynthia Rothrock. See if you can find some of their DVDs.
3/15/2011 9:38:16 PM
Originally Posted By Zack3g:
TKD isn't exactly self defense material anyway.
Get her in another class, something a bit more useful outside of a tournament environment.
TKD isn't exactly self defense material anyway.
Get her in another class, something a bit more useful outside of a tournament environment.
She really only like the TKD "forms" part. The sparring, which is about as close to self-defense as it gets, she doesn't like.
I don't think she'll go for anything hard core.
3/16/2011 4:55:14 AM
Maybe it's not her "thing"
Let her try... Swim, soccer, dance, gymnastics, diving, hockey, surfing, running...You live here, and everything is available. You just have to find the one that calls to her, and becomes her passion.
Let her try... Swim, soccer, dance, gymnastics, diving, hockey, surfing, running...You live here, and everything is available. You just have to find the one that calls to her, and becomes her passion.
3/17/2011 4:29:55 PM
Originally Posted By mattja:
She really only like the TKD "forms" part. The sparring, which is about as close to self-defense as it gets, she doesn't like.
I don't think she'll go for anything hard core.
Originally Posted By Zack3g:
TKD isn't exactly self defense material anyway.
Get her in another class, something a bit more useful outside of a tournament environment.
TKD isn't exactly self defense material anyway.
Get her in another class, something a bit more useful outside of a tournament environment.
She really only like the TKD "forms" part. The sparring, which is about as close to self-defense as it gets, she doesn't like.
I don't think she'll go for anything hard core.
Paintball is gaining popularity (locally) among girls/women. It can be rigorous and promotes the development of tactics that can be valuable in real life.
3/22/2011 10:38:18 AM
I think at this age it should be more about finding an enjoyable fit. 9 is very young to decide on a sport for life. As suggested earlier, don't just replace the TKD with TV. Find another sport or activity to try out.
In my case I have one son who tried soccer but after a couple seasons it was obvious it wasn't his thing. Eventually, he found the piano and is excelling after five years of lessons. Son #2 started in soccer and loved it. He's still playing five years later. He tried Piano and lasted 6 months. Now a few years later he wanted to try drums. He's taking lessons and it has really clicked and he's having a great time learning.
We went with the shotgun approach. Try lots of activities and maybe they'll find one they like. Now, we don't enter just any activity blindly. The drummer son also wanted to learn the bagpipes. In our mind you can't develop a passion for an instrument if you don't have a passion for the music. But we thought when does he ever listen to bagpipe music beside the 4th of July parade? So we nixed the bagpipes and went with the more obivious choice of drums since he listens to rock and jazz music all the time.
Expose her to a bunch of different options rock climbing, swimming, dance, volleyball, etc. Then see if you can get her to tell you what sort of thing looks like fun to her. It's got to be fun at this age otherwise it's nothing but pain for both you and your daughter.
In my case I have one son who tried soccer but after a couple seasons it was obvious it wasn't his thing. Eventually, he found the piano and is excelling after five years of lessons. Son #2 started in soccer and loved it. He's still playing five years later. He tried Piano and lasted 6 months. Now a few years later he wanted to try drums. He's taking lessons and it has really clicked and he's having a great time learning.
We went with the shotgun approach. Try lots of activities and maybe they'll find one they like. Now, we don't enter just any activity blindly. The drummer son also wanted to learn the bagpipes. In our mind you can't develop a passion for an instrument if you don't have a passion for the music. But we thought when does he ever listen to bagpipe music beside the 4th of July parade? So we nixed the bagpipes and went with the more obivious choice of drums since he listens to rock and jazz music all the time.
Expose her to a bunch of different options rock climbing, swimming, dance, volleyball, etc. Then see if you can get her to tell you what sort of thing looks like fun to her. It's got to be fun at this age otherwise it's nothing but pain for both you and your daughter.
